How do you touch a woman you’ve never met before without creeping her out? And how do you keep touching her in a way that leads to a kiss, and eventually to sex?
The pickup community uses the word “kino” to designate “touch.” Mystery, the towering innovator in the community, defines kino simply. “Physical escalation.” Kino is short for kinesthetic. One reason pickup artists like to use the word kino is because the word “touch” can have weird ring to it.
Here’s one thing I’ve learned about physical escalation. If you’re the type of friendly guy that touches everyone naturally already, it’s no big deal to touch a woman you’ve just met. It’s natural.
And even though it seems weird to kino a “stranger,” there’s nothing wrong with giving a quick tap on the arm or giving a handshake or high five to anyone you’ve just met. In fact, it makes things a lot more lively and fun if you do.
I put stranger in quotes because often we look for how we’re different from each other. But when you get down to it, we have more in common than we have differences. “Stranger” is just an illusion. There’s nothing wrong with giving a “stranger” kino because touch is a way of giving love.
The other thing I’ve learned about escalation is to always gently push the envelope. Yet at the same time, back off before the girl pushes us away. Always leave her wanting more. Us guys have the cool job of taking the lead, and of taking all the risks. And it’s damn fun. If a girl isn’t ready for us to go the next step and pushes us away, no problem. Stop and try again later. Allow her time to feel more comfortable.
Not a lot of pickup teachers talk about how to physically escalate (Venusian Arts and Pickup 101 are two places that have talked about it). Not knowing how myself, I wanted to learn it badly. I noticed how the master pickup artists had no fear of kino and beginners hardly kino at all. I wanted to get over my fear, and I didn’t know how.
I wrote this post to learn how. What I learned is absolutely fascinating, and I want to share it with as many as possible. I’ve learned kino is absolutely necessary to pickup, it’s fun, and it’s not as hard as I had thought.
I’ve organized this post into four parts. Part One is about why kino is a MUST. Part Two defines WHAT kino is. Part Three digs into HOW TO kino. And Part Four gives you a quick exercise to start practicing kino RIGHT AWAY.
PART ONE: Why Kino is a MUST
I know there’s not a lot out there about kino. But that doesn’t mean it’s not important. Here’s five things you get ONLY with kino, and not through words or body language.
You can talk a good game and have great body language, but without kino, you ain’t getting laid.
Take the first kiss. If you haven’t done any kino beforehand, the girl is like, “Where did that come from?” Makes sense. You don’t touch her all night, and all of sudden you gonna kiss her?
Keep dreaming, bro.
But if you have kino RIGHT FROM THE START in a FUN, FRIENDLY WAY–emphasize FUN and FRIENDLY so it ain’t creepy kino–when you go to kiss her, it’s not out of the blue anymore. It’s natural. Because you’ve had kino all along! Nice.
Sex after all is PHYSICAL. So obviously you need physical escalation to get you there. Hello.
Here’s a mathematical equation for you. No kino=strangers. Kino=friends.
Haha. But it’s true.
When you don’t kino, an interaction feels kinda formal and unfriendly. You kinda assume you have this immense block of ice between the two of you.
And let’s face it. Without kino, you’re basically having an intellectual conversation.
But when you kino, damn. Don’t you feel more at home and comfortable? You feel loose and free. That means: Kino assumes rapport.
The lesson here is this. When you first kino, kino the way you’d touch your buddies. It makes people feel comfortable, like you’re already friends. Instant rapport. Woo-hoo!